What is real and why does one person believe in one reality and someone else in another?
The answer is actually quite simple.
Each person that has ever lived on the face of the planet has a reality that is different to anyone else's reality in some way or another.
But is it?
Yes, we all live on the same planet, breathe the same air, drink the same water so how is your reality any different from my reality?
Well, for starters, you are not me!
In your reality your significant other is as tall as you are, in my reality my significant other is slightly shorter than I am.
Our realities are different are they not?
In your reality you are able to spend money on your family that in my reality I simply do not have.
However in our common reality we both want our children to be properly fed, well educated, happy and successful do we not?
In your reality you cannot understand why I am so bitter and twisted about the fact that my children are not getting the education that is guaranteed to them by the constitution.
And in my reality the situation is made worse because from the viewpoint of my reality, you do not care that my children are not getting the education they deserve.
And that makes me even more angry!
And should we happen to talk to each other then we talk at crossed purposes because each one of us approaches the discussion from a different reality viewpoint.
So is it all that surprising that when we discuss something we do not find common ground?
Actually it is highly unlikely that we will find common ground !!
We are after all in two different realities are we not?
But what happens when we have to find common ground?
Is it even possible? Can we do it?
The fact of the matter is that we must do it and we must make it possible because our very existence as people and a country depends on us finding common ground and doing it successfully!
Each of us faces the reality that if we do not find common ground, figure out a solution that makes sense both in your reality and in mine then neither of us nor our families are going to survive very well, if at all.
And that reality is a scary and frightening reality for us both.
So never assume that the other persons reality is exactly the same as your reality, because it is not, it never has been and it never will be.
However the way forward for both of us is joined and we must learn to understand each other.
For if we don't, the reality is that neither of us has a future worth a damn !!!